Let's Change the Narrative

Good Morning y'all. I am sorry I have been absent, but I do have a very valid reason... something I will share another day. Today, I want to get this message out to everyone, especially those who are suffering, particularly those who are suffering in silence; or don't feel like they are being heard. I am here to not just listen to you... I will HEAR what you need to share.

I have been preaching, literally this title to everyone I know. We, as a society, and people in general, need to start changing the narrative on things in our lives. I'll give you an example...

This one pertains to me, and I feel it is very important that people truly understand these words...

LET'S CHANGE THE NARRATIVE!!!

For most of my life, I have used the terms "I AM mental ill", well over my recent experience I have kind of changed those words and I feel it is something that will comfort those who are having a hard time. Instead of saying I AM mental ill... I wish and hope people would start saying, "I HAVE a, or mental illness". Yes, it is something we cope with, but it doesn't define us. 

I was chatting with someone I consider my sister and I said this, explaining it in another way. You don't hear people who have cancer saying, "I AM cancer!" No, they will explain that they HAVE cancer (whether they reveal what kind), as a society we accept those words, so why would be say anything different about mental health. It is an illness like everything else, right?!! See what I am saying???

CHANGE THE NARRATIVE!!!

Here is another example...

One day I will write about what happened recently, but it truly has given me a more open perspective on certain things. I was talking about my life with someone, and as the words came out, I paused. I said the words "my fault" and in mid sentence I looked at them and said... NO, it is NOT a fault. I did something that wasn't right; this doesn't make a bad person, but the huge thing I have been advocating for is this... Take accountability for your actions, be apologetic, but also recognize that you are human. Just because we made a mistake, doesn't make us bad, right?

That's another word I'd like to change the narrative on...

I have felt most of my life that the word "mistake" is such a bullshit word. There are no mistakes in life... we may feel like a failure or hate how a situation ended up, but it's NOT a mistake, it is a life lesson and hopefully you, and I, have learned from it... making it a life lesson. Maybe I am weird for having this perspective, after everything I have endured, I do NOT regret a thing. I don't dwell on the "what ifs" because you cannot change the past. You either grow from it, or will have the repetative behaviour until you understand that it is what it is, and a lesson you will carry with you.

So I guess my last words are this... Stop being so hard on yourself. It is okay to do something that may be incorrect, but as long as you have learned from it, then carry on in life. Stick to people who won't hold past "lessons" against you but rather will lift you up and love you simply for the beautiful souls you are.

I hope you all have a blessed day. I have to get off my butt and get some housework done... I will try to write later on, as I have many things to share. Stay safe. Stay warm. Be well. Be loved.

Chat soon Lovies.