Can Someone Explain Why???

 

Page 48 of 366. Good Morning Y'all!!! I hope you all had a restful sleep; because I most certainly did not. My meds have been doing wonders in helping me sleep, once I am sleeping; but its the falling asleep part that is killing me these days. I was in so much pain last night, that I was in tears. I have experienced pinched nerves before, like with my sciatic nerve... but this one definitely takes the cake. 

All the medical professionals will tell you, is that you need to "ride it out".... okay, so can you at least give me an estimate when I will have my left side fully functioning again??? Apparently, that is too difficult a question to answer!!!

Anyways, that is not what this blurb is about. I want to talk about girls/chicks/women (whatever us females want to be referred to as).

Now I can only talk about myself as I am not sure how other women feel; although I have heard a lot of women have the same thoughts as I do, on this subject. Why is it soooooo difficult to maintain a great friendship with another woman??? I know for me, it is because I grew up surrounded mostly by boys, then men... and I guess I kinda picked up their mentality when it comes to other women.

Don't get it twisted, I do have a few females I would call friends... even call them sisters and my famILY.... but most women, I can barely tolerate... and I am sure a lot of women feel the same way about me. I am very outspoken. I got the mouth of a trucker and the mindset of the "ol school" ways; which seems to perturb most women. I am NOT for this feminist bullshit, neither am I about this multi gender and sexuality bullshit... I am pretty set in my ways on those beliefs.

I guess what I am getting at is this... Why do so many women have to be underminding their men, or men in general? Why is it such an absurd thing to still believe the men are the head of the household?? Why do women always place the blame on their "man", when they take zero accountability for their own actions???

Again, you must remember that I grew up with guys, so I got to see the opposite side of relationships and watched many a' women cheat, lie and even put him in financial ruin. I am not saying, that I myself are a saint neither. I DO hold myself accountable for what I did to destroy my own relationships. But there is also this thing called GROWTH, that most tend to forget. I see the same pattern over and over again with women and frankly, it disgusts me.

I don't understand why society had to change so much... not just change, but go completely ass backwards when the feminist movement came about. Not just in relationships of couples but in the household in general. Why do women feel the need to validate the fact that we are equal to men? I mean, I understand that women want to be treated as equals in relationships, and I am all for that BUT I think (for myself), that I am the homemaker and he works (if he is able to). 

I firmly believe that the kitchen is my domain; not because it is forced upon me, but because I love cooking and I love providing that hot fresh meal every night or morning, depending on their work schedule. I just don't think a man who works hard all day should come home to a cold meal, to be heated in the microwave nor them eating out of a can, or even having to buy take-out on the daily. To me, that is not right; but that is only my humble opinion.

Here's where things get a little sticky...

I am ol school and I will remind you of that, until it is drilled into everyone's head. This is my personal choice... no one forced it upon me. This particular issue was one of the reasons a couple of my relationships didn't work out. When it comes to decision making, I DO feel the couple should sit down, express their views on it; especially when it comes to things within the home. Ultimately, I feel the man should make the final decision, after he's considered his woman's side of things too.

Lastly, and this one is a biggie...

I am sooooo over the bitchy, petty, whiny, hypocritical bullshit, and this is probably why I have the few select female friends that I have. I am sick to death of women complaining how they are being treated and how men are so bad... when in reality, women are just as bad, but seem to get away with more things because of the simple fact that they are women.

The pettiness and jealousy that I have witnessed from women (and some men), is ridiculous. What do you need to be jealous of??? Does he not come home to you every night? Does he not check on you at least once a day??? I can say from personal experience that most people don't believe that a man and a woman can be best friends, without any sexual undertone. To me, this just sounds insane. I know your partner is to be your best friend, but what is wrong with him having a female bestie too?

I only have a few "rules" (per say) when it comes to being in a relationship with me...

1. I don't need to know where you are going, nor who you are going with. I just am one that would appreciate you telling me when you arrived safely. And if you are going back on the road, I'd like to know that and just let me know when you've reached your final destination safely.

2. (This is probably the number one rule in my life)... Defend in public. Correct in private!!! This doesn't mean to beat the crap out of your partner if they did something incorrect in public... This simply means, you ALWAYS stand as a united front, in public. See, it goes like this... if you correct in public, or have an argument in public, people will see the cracks in your relationship and use that to their advantage... people can be vultures, let's be real.

3. Stop bashing your partner for spending money on things they enjoy. I will give an example of this... if you are dating someone, and let's say they enjoy going to the movies, or concerts or hiking or fishing or whatever their heart desires; what right do you have to impose your views on them. I always say, if all the bills are paid, kids want for nothing, and there is everything needed within the household ~ then have at it!!! I am the last person who is going to stop my partner from doing something they thoroughly enjoy. I am also not going to stop them because more often than not, I cannot do those things and I wouldn't want to hold them back from what they love to do. To be that type of person, makes you a bitch!!!

I guess what I am trying to say, is stop hindering people. It only makes them resent you, and more often than not, they will eventually tire of the constant nagging and will leave.

Anyways, this is my page for today... Things to think about. Just enjoy life and instead of complaining about what your partner is not providing you with; appreciate the things he is. (or vice versa). Life is life and it IS what you make of it. I know this is a very one sided blurb, but it is my thoughts on things and my blog... so there it is!!!

Stay safe. Stay warm. Be well. Be blessed. Love you all!!!