Choose Yourself ~ It's Not Selfishness!!!

Hi all you beautiful souls. I know this blurb is going to come off a bit weird, but it is something that is weighing on my heart and I need to express it. I always promised to be transparent (The actually meaning, not the alphabet crew version), with all my readers and followers, so this is me being an open book...

I will continue to stick to my rule of not mentioning any names because there are such mixed feelings about the situation that I don't want to hurt anyone in the process... especially myself!!!

Let me put it to you, this way...

If you see people you care about being run over by their partner, or someone you love doing something reluctantly, only to appease the person they are with; would you step in or fall back and let them make their own mistakes??? This is the situation I am going to talk about today. I just wish that the person I love in this position had chosen themselves over following what their wayward partner is doing.

This is very hard to write without blasting people, so please bear with me as I try to choose my words wisely. Here's the situation...

Someone recently went on a road trip, lying and using people's sympathy AND money to make sure they go to where they wanted to go. It turned out that the reasoning behind the "funding" and trip were under false pretenses. I have thought about telling the people who helped them do this; but at the same time, I feel it isn't my place to tell them how much of a fraud and fake and asshole (this is a gender neutral word, just saying), this person is. So against my better judgment, I have remained mum... 

NOW, the issue is this same person is uprooting their family out of selfishness. I had warned my family member about what they were doing and pretty much pleaded with them to reconsider their stance. I am afraid my words fell on deaf ears and it breaks my heart as I KNOW 100% how this is all going to play out and I cannot take that upon myself, as it's not my monkeys, not my circus... but I know the clowns!!!

I am guessing this is one of those instances where my brothers, best friend and beloved have warned me, about me always loving too much...

I have taken a step back from the whole thing, but I need my family member to know I have NOT abandoned them. When they have finally had enough and choose themself first, I will be there to help them... I will lift them up. Until then, my hands are tied and it sucks ass!!!

Stay safe. Stay warm/cool. Be well. Be loved. Much love and respect to all my Lovies. Blessed Be

~Phoenix

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