Did You Know It is Birth Mother's Day Today???

 

Page 132 of 366. Good Morning Lovies. Did you know it is National Birth Mother's Day today? Yah, this is the day that is a mindful tribute to recognize birth mothers who chose to place their children up for adoption. This is also the day to celebrate mothers who were victimized and coerced into placing their children for adoption as they deserve just as much recognition and support. It takes a special kind of strength to grow a human being inside you, bring them into this world, only to place them into the arms of another. So today, is not just about adoptees to remember their biological mothers, but for the adoptive families to appreciate the women from whom they received their child. 

(That description (above) of this day is all taken from some page on the web... that is NOT how I would describe this day as an adoptee; and I know many adoptees who feel the same!!!)

Now, let's describe this day from an adoptee's perspective. I can only write from my own personal view as I am adopted, so please bear in mind, this is my own private opinion...

I don't think this day should be acknowledged at all. As you all know, I have a very negative view when it comes to my biological family, more specifically my maternal side. I don't think a woman who had 5 children with 5 different men should be recognized as any kind of parental figure; especially since she abandoned the first two, one of which was me, and gave the third one away because her new boyfriend didn't want to be tied down to anyone else's kid...

 Well, the joke was on him, because recently me and my siblings have been doing that DNA Ancestry stuff, and the child she had after she got together with that guy turned out not to be his neither... Thankfully, he had passed on before the truth was revealed; because it would have broken his heart. The youngest of my siblings, I am not sure who his dad is neither. Frankly, it's not my circus nor my cross to bear.

Maybe I am just vindictive or a bitter bitch, but I tried many times to have a relationship with this woman and I just cannot do it. I cannot get passed the things she has done, nor the things she does when I try to reconnect with her. She is the very reason I don't believe any woman deserves the right to have the title of "mom" just because she gave birth to a child... that is a title that is earned!!!

Do I hate the woman??? That is a very tough question to answer. I despise the things she has done to me and my older brother and the one born after me. Strange, how I am more bitter at what she did to them than what she did to me, and she literally left me at death's door at the tender age of 5 months!!! I guess if there is one person I would hate in this world, it would be her BUT I am not going to give her that satisfaction. I am not going to give her that kind of control over my life and emotions. 

Currently, she is trying to play a "one-up" kinda game with me, and my only response is "HAVE AT IT OLD LADY!!!" I have dealt with the situation far too long, and I am not interested in playing any sort of game; nor do I consider people as possessions... I wish them all well and as I like to say...

IT'S NOT MY MONKEYS. IT'S NOT MY CIRCUS. I ONLY KNOW THE CLOWNS!!!

That's my stance on what today means and my ONLY response to the entire situation. May everyone stay safe. stay cool. Be well. Be blessed. Most of all, may everyone be LOVED.

~Phoenix

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