Learn to be Fluent in Silence

 

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Good Afternoon Lovies. I don't really have the energy to write any beautiful sentiments or give the proper salutations right now, because I am sooooo fkn angry right now; it's taking everything in me to NOT explode.

They say, "the tongue is mightier than the sword"; so I guess my keyboard will have to suffice!!!

I cannot state this any clearer... when someone tells you something deeply personal, are struggling or are telling you they are "tired"... PAY ATTENTION!!!

Some people don't have the means to say how troubled their mind really is; or they have been told to "suck it up"; the latter is usually what men and boys are told BTW. The second a person reaches out and they are told (even once) that they should keep it to themselves, or "deal with it, everyone has problems!!!" 

They will NEVER trust a single soul to listen to them ever again. They will suffer in silence, all because you couldn't take the time to help someone who was LITERALLY reaching out to you.

There are a lot of things I don't see eye-to-eye with our current society; but I will NEVER shut someone down who needs to talk about their troubles, concerns or pains. Just because we don't agree, doesn't mean that I can't love them, be their shoulder in times of trouble BUT it most certainly DOES mean, I would rather listen to them talk to me endlessly about them than hear a two-minute eulogy from some asshole who couldn't be bothered to comfort them while they were still breathing.

I said what I said!!!

There is no need to suffer in silence. There is no need for men and boys, (I'd add women and children here, but there is a ton more support for us than there are for men and boys), to be told to shut up about their feelngs, and they shouldn't be shunned for showing their vulnerable side. 

Please be mindful of the words you are not hearing, the things you are not seeing. Take the time to reassure your loved ones that they are not alone... don't just reassure them... SHOW THEM!!!

Sorry, not sorry; but this is my rant of the day.

~ Phoenix

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