When Miscomprehension Causes Conflict

 

Good Evening Lovies. This is one topic I need to discuss because it is one thing I am very guilty of. Now, before I start, I am not tooting my own horn, but I am not by any means a stupid person. I am well educated, both in book smarts and street smarts. I, like everyone else, have difficulties when it comes to communicating sometimes.

I somedays truly wonder if I have OCD when it comes to speaking to people. I often joke when it comes to conversations, because I have many times PURPOSELY not done what somebody has asked because they were not specific in what they asked me to do... I AM a HUGE stickler for words!!!

This is not to say that I am always specific with my words, or the intentions behind them neither.

A big thing to me, is when people tell me I am too passionate about things. I tend to get butt hurt about that; because I am not sure if they are saying that as a good thing, or something I should stop doing. Do you know what I mean??? 

Yes, I am excessively passionate about things. I have reined that in quite a bit; although when it comes to injustices and seeing loved ones being "abused" or getting taken advantage of, all bets are off and this mamabear goes into over-drive!!! I have stopped helping or standing behind a lot of people. I have given up on others who have shown their true colours. I have walked away from blood, so walking away from anyone is not out of the realm of possibilities with me.

I guess what I am trying to say is... I am trying to better my communcation skills. I am also trying to explain to people that it's not just communication that is vital, because you can talk and talk and talk to someone, but unless there is comprehension, you are literally just blowing hot air. I plead with people to be more specific with me. 

Don't just say something vaguely with me... I can't water myself down to make people happy. I am a tough woman to love. I have zero problem admitting that I am not an easy person to cope with. I am blunt. I can be vulgar and pig-headed; but one thing I am not is cruel (at least not on purpose)!!! I do take accountability for when I misunderstand... that IS on me! I am not one to cower from my own faults.

I guess I am more ot less talking to myself when I say how much misunderstanding someone speaking to me... the lack of comprehension can cause some major blowouts... nevermind the conflict.

Try to have a good one.

~PHoenix

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