Curiosity Doesn't Kill the Cat... I Promise (NSFW)

 

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Good day my Lovies. I hope you are enjoying this peaceful Sunday. Not too much is happening in my world today. I have been deep inside my mind lately, and one topic is really in the forefront these days... LOL

This is going to be a NSFW kinda blurb though... Just so you're all aware...

I know for many people talking about sex is a very taboo subject. A lot of people are still very prudish with their views and practices,. I call these people "vanilla". I am NOT bashing them. What works for them is great for them.

We can go a little more in depth, talking about couples who enjoy more than the missionary position, basically through a hole in a sheet. The ones who are having sex for pleasure, not just for the purpose of procreating. They probably are still pretty "vanilla". These may be people who are curious, but haven't taken the leap into the "darker" side of their sexuality because they are worried what people will think of them.

Then we have the ones who have adventurous sex. I mean, fulfilling fantasies to see if they are a kink or fetish. An example of this would be say a couple gets turned on by having risky sex... like in open public areas, taking the chance of being seen. There's couples who want to experience a threesome, or become a throuple. There are many more things to add, this is just a broad sense of what I am trying to say.

All I can say, the truth is... Curiosity never harmed the kitty. 

There is nothing bad about exploring what fulfills your wants and needs. Your sex life doesn't have to be a "wham bam, thank you maam" kinda deal. If you don't feel comfortable, don't divulge too deeply. I mean, there are adult clubs to step into, to test your comfort level, and maybe even show you new things you'd be interested in. The possibilties are there... you just need to look.

I want to end with this one...

We also have the "darker" side of sex. I am talking about the hardcore things. Dungeons, straps, whips, cuffs, paddles... things the majority would shun away from. I kinda giggle at them now because they don't know what they are missing. BDSM is an interesting lifestyle that comes with a relationship between two people who have infinite trust and respect for each other... There needs to be that, because in some more extreme kinks, you literally trust them with your life.

I am not going to get too much into. I am not pressuring anyone to check out the lifestyle if they're not comfortable. Some people may like the basic S&M, with safe words and a lot of hard "NOs"; and that is more than okay, as long as you have 100% trust in the person you're playing with. 

All I really know is people misconstrued this lifestyle. They feel it is an abusive one. It's a lifestyle for people who are mentally ill. I am here to tell you, it is completely the opposite. I am not denying that some partners, do end up being abusers and victims... But if you are in a true, honest, loving BDSM relationship; you'd see the profound love, honour and respect the two have for each other. 

Some that I know in this lifestyle have the BEST friendships and relationships. The weirdest thing about all of this, is people have no clue what kink or lifestyle you're in, just by having a conversation with you. It's not like we walk up to people and introduce ourselves with our name, age, gender and sexual preference, do we??? Just do you!!!

(That would just be fkd up!!!)

Here is my last tidbit...

If you are contemplating a darker dive into your sexual lifestyle, please do your research. If you are determined to go ahead, take the advice, and make a contract, with your safe word.... I only say this because until you're fully comfortable with who you're with; you don't want to put your full trust in someone who could possibly abuse it. Just move ahead with eyes wide open.

~ Phoenix