Sensitive Topic

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Hi y'all. I am going to be discussing a sensitive subject. Please note that I am going to talk about something that may upset some of my readers. I apologize for that, but this is a topic that needs to remain vocal and "open" to discussion.

We need to open the doors and windows and bring the topic of domestic violence to the forefront and keep it there!!! 

I have my own personal reasons for talking about this today; but just looking around the world and seeing how much it continues to happen, angers me to no end. 

I am going to do all I can, to call out those who are the perpetrators. I ALMOST put men, but switched it to "perpetrators" because you'd be surprised how many women are abusers too.

I have written previously that in my youth I had been raped and sexually assaulted (at two different ages). That eventually landed me in the psychiatric ward by the time I was 14. I didn't say a word... I literally was mute for 3 weeks before I broke and revealed everything to the psychiatrist there. I didn't get my justice. My perps got away with it, because they were good "Christian" men, and I was to "never mention it again!" It was brushed under the rug and I was tossed to the streets.

About 6 years ago, I was roofied and sexually assaulted by a bar owner. I am not going to reveal his name; but I personally know of at least 7 of his victims... who knows how many others he has done this to. The one thing that really broke my heart with this situation, I met a woman a couple years after it happened to me; only to learn he did it to her as well. I felt immensely guilty. ME... HIS VICTIM.... FELT GUILTY!!!

I apologized to her, cried with her. I beat myself up because I really felt had I gone to the authorities, he wouldn't have had a chance to do anything else. She become his prey was because I stayed quiet. The worst part was I intended to expose him, but I was told by a couple of his victims to just "keep my mouth shut"; it's not worth it.

This is also why I am not remaining quiet about the guy who was, at first, a nice guy, turned into an absolute creep, stalker and sexual abuser (verbally and physically). I was not, and will not allow peer pressure force me to remain mum. FUCK THAT AND FUCK YOU!!!

I promised I was only going to reveal my own personal story because I will not betray the trust of any man, nor woman who has entrusted me with their own experience. I AM going to say that abuse comes in all forms... physical, sexual, psychological, emotional and financial. Women are very good at being manipulators and abusers... something society really doesn't want to acknowledge. It's really sad how little there is of support for abused men.

I AM going to touch on one more subject that I feel is valid. (Before I will say there are men out there who are not like this at all!!!) If you are watching, or know of a woman, child or man being abused in any form; and you just stand by or turn a blind eye... YOU ARE JUST AS BAD AS THE ABUSER...maybe worse!!! 

If someone confides in you about their situation, take them at their word.... do NOT accuse them of being liars, or shove it under the rug, like it was nothing. We as a community need to work together. We need to protect each other. We need to defend and protect those who may not be able to protect themselves; or have been beaten down (mentally too), that they feel they cannot do it. We need to show them they are not alone!!!

PERIOD!!!

~ Phoenix