Don't Get it Twisted!!!

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Good Morning Lovies. We are supposed to have freezing rain here, I haven't looked outside as the weather doesn't affect my day today (as in, I am not out on the roads or anything like that today). 

I do, however, hope you all have a blessed day and stay safe and warm.

I wanna briefly touch on what people often say...

"Communication is key!!!"  WRONG!!!

The saying should be... "Comprehension is key. You can communicate all you want, but if your words and feelings are not understood/comprehended; you are wasted your breath." I can share a scenario of this...

I have had relationships where I could talk until I was blue in the face, explaining how certain things triggered me; and NOTHING would change in their behaviour or words. Don't get it twisted, when I was younger and immature, I was the same way... we all, at one point, have to learn this valuable life lesson.

Here's an example of when you know it's the real deal, and you have found your mate...

Let's say, you both are struggling with individual issues; both respecting that but being there for each other... listening and understanding unconditionally; maybe not having the answers for the other, but there is a silent "pact" that "we got this" and neither one will ever go through anything alone... both being the other's biggest champion and supporter.

One day, one of them may be having a really "off" day; which the other recognizes by mannerisms and words being used. Instead of attacking each other, you step back and let them figure out what's going on with them; giving them space; BUT letting them know, that you acknowledge they are not in a good space and know what they are dealing with is affecting them.

(Back in the day, I would harp on my partner to know why they are being snappy and I would take it personally, and get belligerent with them. THIS IS SUCH UNHEALTHY BEHAVIOUR, I MIGHT ADD!!!)

If you are in a good, healthy relationship, when your partner is ready, they will open up to you. You need to let them go at THEIR pace; REMEMBER YOU ARE ON THEIR TEAM ~ THEIR PEACE, NOT THEIR BATTLE!!!

It is important to remember that sometimes they are not looking for answers or for you to fix things. They simply want you to HEAR them... let them vent. I know, for me personally, I (sometimes) explain what I am struggling with because by saying it outloud I am trying to find the answer within.

Y'all should listen to the song LET HER TALK by COOPER ALAN.

Sorry, I didn't want this to end up as a big nag session. This is just something I needed to let out. I hope you all have a great day. Stay safe. Stay warm. Be well. Be blessed. Most of all, Be LOVED!!!

~ Phoenix

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