"We Want Your Thoughts..."

 

Good Afternoon Lovies. I hope the day is treating you well. It's Thor's Day... the weekend is one day away. A LONG weekend for most. Anyone have plans??? 

(I still can't wrap my head around the fact that we are half way through May already!!!)

In previous years, I'd be packing up the camping equipment and be setting off on an adventure; didn't need a destination. Simply, a roadtrip... wherever the car stopped, we stayed LOL.

As a child to mid teenager, this weekend meant work... and HARD work. My father (adopted) owned a landscaping company, and anybody who knows anything about gardening, knows that this weekend (May 2-4) is the weekend we toil the soil and plant the gardens.

It's a bittersweet moment having these memories pop up right now. As y'all are aware, I don't have a great relationship with my parents: but I am NOT making this post about that today... I am looking beyond that.

I got a text message from my dad this morning. Long story short, he is on his third bout with stomach cancer. They have met with a surgeon who specializes in stomach and colon cancer. He informed my parents that he could successfully remove part of my dad's stomach, and dad could live a normal life. The text ended with them asking for my thoughts about this; saying they are "important" to them.

HOW DO I ANSWER THAT???

Let me add a little perspective to this. My mother has heart issues, and she is 83 years old. My dad is 86 years old. They have both been healthy 90% of their lives, and we all know people do NOT live forever. They live in their own house still, and take care of each other. I guess this is where my struggle lies...

Dad is NOT in pain. He still leads a normal life. He has NEVER required surgery in his life. The surgeon could be completely right, and he successfully removes part of his stomach, but what is the treatment after? He isn't a young buck anymore, I am really concerned about his age and if his body could handle the trauma surgery causes.

Now saying all that, how do I tell him I do NOT want him to have the surgery? I feel he should enjoy the years he has left, whether that be 6 months or 10 years... I don't want him to risk it... FK, I feel selfish saying that!!!

Completely torn,   Phoenix

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