Don't Label Me

 

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Good Afternoon Lovies. Sunday Funday is upon us... the weather is just a "RUDE" ass today... with humidex it is 45 C outside; and it is only 1:36pm my time!!!

(Swamp ass anyone???

I am hoping by the end of this blurb I will have a title for it, otherwise, it will simply be what page we are in this 6th chapter of my current book.

I feel that a lot of my blurbs lately have been about a lot of negative things happening in, and around my life. Today, I think maybe I should put  up something more uplifting and share some of the positives in my life.

My health has it days, so that is nothing out of the norm. I have medical appointments all the time; I don't want to complain because doctors, specialists and surgeons are FINALLY on the same page, and there is hope for the future.

Life has given me a refresher course on why I had such strong boundaries up... People tend to look at boundaries as a bad thing, when truthfully, they are only there to guide people to the door; where they are either welcomed in gracefully, or turned away. (No one sneaking in a reeking havoc at a table they no longer deserve a seat at).

I have a fair share of people I know, acquaintances, friends, then friends who are close enough to be family, and then my famILY. Over the years, like many other people, my circle has became very small, it is so small now that it is simply a bubble (maybe a "pod" is a better word, since it only fits two, and we're great together).

I want to remind people that, even when you have a significant other (SO), or whatever label you want to put on them, you need to remember that they are NOT what completes you. You first need to completely love yourself, learn that you are strong enough to be on your own if it doesn't work and respect yourself to never allow another being to disrespect you, in any sort of way.

I know, I know. I constantly hear about "soulmates" "twinflames" "karmic flames"... blah, blah, blah!!! In my world it's usually a "ride or die"... but even those words have been over used in many cases. I guess labels just annoy me altogether now; maybe it's because everything and everyone needs to be "identified" these days. IDK.

This is the last part of my thoughts on this one...

When you read about people's stories, most of them use the term "fall/fell in love"... I think it is one of the dumbest terms ever used. Do you even realize what you're saying when you spew those words??? Falling implies that you eventually have to get up!!! I used to believe in love at first sight... I used to think that being with someone was the most important thing in the world. I felt I needed someone to be with me to feel validated. 

It took me DECADES, to see that I am soooooo much more than being someone's "piece of ass", or their "arm candy" or "wife" or "ol lady"... I sat back and took the time to deal with myself, emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically. I am not saying I am in a perfect state (as you can all see by reading my blog); but I can say, I am more "aware" of my surroundings. I am more "conscious" of my decisions, and I am absolutely 100% accountable for my actions.

I guess what this all boils down to, is this... if even one person can learn from my experiences, than exposing my vulnerabilities is worth it. I would love for people to realize they are not what people perceive them to be; and a lot of times, they are not what they see of themselves neither... being beaten down so many times really murks the waters!!! People who have worked hard to overcome their past, don't need to be reminded of those times... you nor them, live there any more.

How about a chin up!!! Love yourself, Self respect and self esteem are super important for your mental well-being. I know today is a good day. I know that I am not a saint, but I do love the woman I am. I fought hard to be her. I am at peace when I see her in the mirror... That says a lot, especially for people that know me. Be blessed!!!

~Phoenix