Sometimes Sage Advice is the WRONG Advice!!!

 

Good Morning Lovies.

Happy Monday everyone. I hope you all have a blessed day. It was a rather quiet weekend, and I did not dare to venture outdoors, as the weather continues to be extremely rude!!! My body is NOT built for this kind of heat. I say it often, and people think I am joking; but I was definitely meant to be an eskimo.

Yesterday was a day of reflection for me. It was my aunt's birthday, and even though she passed almost two decades ago; it feels like it was only yesterday for me. The last six months of her life was marred with my mother constantly making it miserable for me to even spend time with her. 

I never understood the jealousy my mother had over my aunt and my relationship; but my mother remained cruel to the bitter end; and my aunt gave it right back until she no long could. I could write for days about my aunt, and all the crazy antics we did; but sometimes the best things/times that happened, are the ones nobody knows about.

I guess where I am getting at with this blurb is this...

People constantly tell others that they should love and care for their parents while they still have them, because they are surely going to mourn and grieve for them when they are gone. My question to them is this... I already grieve my parents, and they are still alive and live 20 minutes away from me... tell me, how much more can a child miss their parent(s)???

I know that people have the best intentions with their advice, but sometimes what is meant as good advice is the complete opposite to the person they are giving it to... THIS being a prime example!!! People need to learn to not speak about things they know nothing about. My life is much more peaceful without them. Yes, that sounds harsh, but it is MY reality. 

I am almost 50 years old and most of my life, I have tried everything in my power to bend over and appease them; everything short of joining their religion... which is all they want me to do. I am sorry, there are some lines I will not cross. I will not, and can not, in good conscience, sit in a church and worship, and everything else they do; when it is something that doesn't align with my own personal beliefs. I simply cannot comply with it. 

I have all I need and want in my life. I am not speaking of material things, because they come and go... I am talking about love, loyalty, respect... I have a man who loves me... flaws and all. Someone who has seen me at my worst and my best. We deeply respect each other, and our loyalty sees no bounds. I honour and cherish him. These are things money cannot buy. Yet, to me, those are the things I treasure the most, and will protect with every fiber of my being.

Again, I hope you all have a great day. Stay safe. Stay cool. Be well. Be blessed. Most of all, Be LOVED!!!

~ Phoenix

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