Just Keeping it Real

 

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Good Morning Lovies. How are you this Thor's Day? 

I woke up at the ass crack of dawn today. I want to say my heart is heavy; but, I think a better term would be, it is filled with a heaviness because I want nothing more than to take the aching of someone I cherish very much.

As you know, I never share names on here, this is the no different. I am not going to share what is going on with this person neither, as it is not my story to tell. I just know my heart aches for them... if only words and a simple flip of a "wand" would cure things, right?!! 

Unfortunately, I am not Samantha and this isn't "Bewitched"... as much as I would love it to be right now. At this moment in time, it REALLY sucks being an empath!!!

With this person on my mind, and a lot of people I love floating through... I really need to bring up a topic, that should be talked about more... tis the season; and I am NOT talking about the Big ole Jolly Fat Guy neither.

It might the time of year that many people find joyous, and enjoy prepping for all the presents and family gatherings; but it is not like that for everyone. Some people despise the holidays for many reasons... it can be a very depressing time. I think society needs to mindful of that. 

(There is a reason I am speaking about this...)

When we talk about depression, we generally talk about women, or teens; but generally leave out men, or boys. I don't know when society is going to wake up and realize men are human too. There is so much thrown on men's shoulders and they are still expected to suck it up... man up... don't cry because then they look like "wimps" and "losers". 

People... Society... need to give their heads a shake!!! This mentality makes me very angry, and disappointed. We, society, as a whole, need to stop the stigma attached to mental health disorders, especially when it comes to men and boys. There is nothing wrong with a man who admits he cannot cope with something mentally, There is nothing wrong with a young man, teen or boy coming to you, emotionally upset. Men shouldn't have to worry about crying or breaking down, expressing how they feel.

I am openly admitting, I am very ol school... in the sense that the man is the head of the household. The man is the one who wears the pants, so to speak. I am also the woman who "allows" (for lack of a better word), him to be real. If he is upset, emotionally a wreck, or hurting in any way... there is no need to keep that inside. I would never mock him for needing a mental break. Same goes for my brothers and my son... 

Let me tell you, the day I hear anyone tell my kid, my brothers or any man I know and love, that they're not a real man for having emotions... You'd better check yourself, or pray your hands can defend that mouth.

Before I end this, please check on your friends, your loved ones, your family... Trust me when I say... check on the strong ones, because usually they are the ones who are carrying the most and suffering in silence. Just keeping it real!!!

Stay safe. Be well and Be LOVED.

~ Phoenix